B4r and After

At times i really felt bad ... I really don't understand why people are not understanding anything properly. I know a guy who was out of his relation ship because of some small misunderstanding .... i wont accept anything that moves away is not because of misunderstanding its either ???..... It seems after the breakup also she dint not understand him properly. Proving every time to her is useless and its not necessary also. So i suggested him to be quite. Enough proving ......... rock on man.

Rock on - Quite nice movie in the recent films. Making is really good which i enjoyed nice even though i don't understand the language. The movie is all about friend and their magik(magic) rock troop. Nicely designed screenplay .. worth watching.

Hey ppl i ll suggest you to watch worldmovies TV channel you ll be able to watch the best movies of the world...Spanish,,, French,,, German,,,, many more.. and the movies are really good too. Another good thing is subtitles are also displayed in English. Which makes easy to watch a foreign language movies.

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Every one in the world have some kind of issue which they name it as problem.... the worse part is he ll be thinking that he is the only person who is facing hell lot of problems ... When a person faces any problem think how his interest changes... either bugging them self or shifting the work to a new style where they wont work with the intention of doing the work better instead they want to run away from their present problem.

I found this question arising to those who are thinking them self good. Why the politicians are living good even though they do lot of other worst activities. See here .....he is bad still if you elect him then its not his problem its yours. For every problem there will be loop which you created either by knowing or with out knowing. First of all there should be a self diagnostics tool in every one which is very important but its really tough to accept our won mistakes. Just take this instance when a person is blaming u for something ... If you are a perfect self diagnostics person you will be able to give an answer in a decent way. But what is happening is like when u point some one or when you are pointed you cant control yourself. when you did no wrong why you have to shout.. Make him explain what he did... still if you think that any problem arises move away from the place, not the problem. Take a gap of 10 min and solve it ... you will be doing in a much better way.

There is no one called bad people. People every one in this world want to full fill their own needs... for that they are making bonds, pared together if they feel this will not be my cup of tea they are out of their relation... if you go further..for instance when a new couple is married..They are having sex during that time the intention is both of them should enjoy their time not they want a child like you are me... bcoz of the society they are giving birth. Thanks to the society otherwise you and me ll be not here.

Many people say Prostitution is bad... but my opinion towards it is bit different. In todays world how many couples are getting divorce ... how many lovers are bounded out of their relation ... if u still go further .. they are sharing lot of things if they find they are not comfortable with what they are doing then immediately they are coming out. First of all when you are bonded together be in your limits otherwise some one have to suffer in that. If you think all these aspects ... and approach this one ... when you go to a prostitute and coming back atleast you are not hurted by her or him. Never think that m encouraging this but still.... even government can come down to make it legal. Atlest if they make it leagal... they will get revenue and at the same time Level of Aids will come down. But still certain activist say that sociaty will be spoiled. For them my answer is, approach the things in a better way. Think all the aspects. Most of the metro are already exploited. So it better to define certain perameters and make this act as legal.

Comments..

Certain things are really difficult to cope up. Today it started with some disappointment ... i missed one of my frnd who was abt to come with me....... i cant say he s ma frnd... even few steps more.I felt he thinks like me.. he travels life according to the laws. I felt we ll move together ... any way if u expect some thing then when it fails it returns some thing bad.

Another interesting thing happened when i was roaming in and around of my office which i do regularly bcoz i get bored easily... suddenly one of my friend called me to her place she was saying me that Love marriage is much better than arrange marriage because you will understand very well in a love marriage and she also showed me one paper that how many time her boy friend had fight with her... one thing i really don't understand is y she showed all that to me... two what is love marriage..... three y m writing about this..

Praja Rajyam (peoples Kingdom).. I have never seen a crowd in the recent time for a political dram. I really amazed of seeing a person who is having a fan gathering of above 10lacs for his new political dram. He already doing something with his blood banks now he is wearing a new political cap. Hope he ll bring life light in the houses of poor.

When i moved further an argument leaded me to miss something again. I think we cant say what we think. A small change in your words will bring a greater change which i felt today. Who ever it is even its your mother try to use your words with certain terms and conditions. Its just take a small time to think about you bad. Never force any one to do something... To make you more clear... if you force yourself to do something you cant... instead you will fail in that... How can you say others to do that.

Love - Read it once

This blog is meant to reveal that there is nothing as ‘love’ between a man and a woman but only a liking a desire an attraction of the one for the other. The word `love’ has been coined with extraordinary and unnatural attributes to spoil a co-ordinating life between a man and a woman. In the name of love many are leading an unhappy, ungratifying and unbearable life. My aim is to blow up the myth about love.

What is love? What is its power? How does it begin and how long does it exist? When does it blossom and when does it wither? what is the reason for its disappearance? These are some of the questions for which if we try to find answers we will see the hollowness of the word “love” and the folly of the humans in praising it sky-high.

First of all it is better to understand the meaning of the word ‘love’, its usage and the base on which it is founded. Those who talk of love at present say that it is not affection, affinity, longing, dotage or lust but something unique that develops between a man and a woman in an inexplicable way for a specific purpose. They say love is divinely and nothing else could match it. They further say that love blossoms between a man and a woman only once and it remains unchangeable thereafter. According to them if love shifts from one person to another it is not love at all but lust and it is to be branded as “ “whoring”. They believe that true love is fixed and one who loves truly would never think of another with desire,longing or dotage. In the name of love they bind one to another irretrievably.

Whatever be the consequences, I am of the opinion that the champions of love are either ignorant of the reality of life and human nature or feign ignorance for some reason or other.

Most of the couples we see nowadays are brought together by a third party to beget children, to make their domestic life pleasant and to gratify their natural instincts.It is very rare to find a couple who boast of being brought together by love-god Cupid or of having fallen in love impelled by some divine power. Whatever be the reason for their coming together, I dare say that no one has any right to decide, intervene or influence one’s love, lust, desire, affection, affinity, infatuation, yearning, dotage etc. for others. To be frank, I would rather say that nature, experience and human rights vouchsafe that choosing a life-partner is an individual’s privilege as that of his choosing a restaurant or cafeteria to cater to his taste desire or gratification and the interference of a third person is obtrusive and unwarranted.

If we probe into the nature of the word ‘love’ denuded of its paraphernalia, we will find nothing special about it. Whatever may be the language in which the word occurs, it is nothing but a word like `desire’, `affection’,` attraction’ etc that denotes a link between a man and a woman, If we look up the word in a dictionary, its sanskrit root connotes cutting, killing, breaking etc. In Tamil the word refers to sexual gravitation; otherwise it is a synonym with affection, desire, friendship. affinity, etc. There seems to be nothing special about it. If people attribute any special meaning to this word I do not know on what authority or usage they arrive at such a special meaning.

Next let us ask how love evolves between a man and a woman. Does it blossom on its own without any external promptings or does a third person facilitates its origin? If they say it blossoms involuntarily, we have to probe the place and time of its origin.Then we will find that love does not spring from nowhere but only when a man and woman come together or each knows the other’s appearance, character, traits etc through a third person or other sources.

Again there is the possibility of love being one-sided and not reciprocated. I find love to be similar to the desire of a man to possess something he looks at, hears of or comes to know of. The mentality of the lovers makes it clear that their love is self-motivated and seeks gratification in each possessing the other.

Love may be prompted by one’s beauty, youth, intelligence, wealth, education, status, family prestige, or talent in music which is worth possession, enjoyment and gratification. Each loves the other for some trait or other which he or she really finds in the other or presumes or believes to be being misled by appearances.

Let us imagine that a man and a woman meet each other in a garden. Each looks at the other and gets gravitated . The man asks her who she is. She says she is a princess and the man falls in love with her instantly. Now, the princess, in her turn, asks him who he is. He answers that he is the son of a servant in her palace. What will be her reaction? Naturally she will feel disgusted and disgraced. Here what prompted them to love each other? Suppose the man tells her that he is the son of a neighbouring king. How would she react? She would fall headlong in love with him and wish he should continue to be her husband in all her births to come. Suppose she comes to know, after a few days, that her lover is not a prince but the son of a slave. Will her love continue as before or vanish? Suppose one falls in love with a girl presuming her to be all right but later comes to know that she is diseased or that she is a prostitute or that she is a schemer to possess his wealth or that she is contrary to his expectations. Will his love for her remain unaltered? Such questioning will reveal the hollowness of the word ‘love’ and its paraphernalia. Does true love spring up at first sight or does it evolve gradually by knowing each other intimately? Of these two types of love which can be superior? Can we say that Platonic love is superior to physical love? Can true love remain unperturbed even where incompatibility creeps in physically or mentally? Is true love immune to infidelity which is suspected or real? Can love become false if one gets away from the other egged on by suspicion or dissatisfaction?

While falling in love, the lovers might have been at a different level of physical and mental maturity, personal views and aspirations of life but later on changes might occur in their outlook. It we insist that their love should remain constant throughout their lives even in adverse circumstances, love becomes useless and loses its value.

Suppose a couple of lovers get separated from each other in disgust and eventually turn ascetics, shall we call them betrayers of love? Will there be any meaning in their love? Or if one becomes an ascetic and forsakes the other, shall we call it a betrayal of love? Such questions will divulge the hollowness of the word “love”. It is but natural that one’s love flows in diverse ways and one desires to possess many things in life. More often than not man gets dejected with his dear ones, detests them and even gets separated from them. Is it not but natural that one yields to urges at weaker moments and rebounds after sometime? Don’t we see that one gets subjugated as a novice but tries to get liberated after gaining some knowledge of the world?

We see many a young man falling a prey to a courtesan and losing his all for her sake. Shall we call his infatuation for the courtesan love, lust, or loss of senses? At times we find a courtesan hates her profession and decides to live with a man for the rest of her life-time. Does it reveal the courtesan’s love for the man or her preference for a secure life? Without knowing the intention of the courtesan if the man continues to love her, can we call his a true love?

The answers to these questions eventually lead us to the conclusion that love is in no way different form one’s liking, desire, infatuation, lust, craving or inexperience, idiocy, disappointment and deception.

People heap unnecessary and unwanted kudos on love and poison the minds of young men and women who ruin their own lives feigning false sentiments. They resemble those who pose themselves as true devotees, apply ash to their foreheads, go to temples regularly, sing devotional songs fervently, and utter the names of deities as “ Shiv!” or “Ram!”. They are like playful children, who pretend to be asleep and toss their toes if you mention that sleeping children will do so. They are like the women who hear that chaste women always walk with their eyes downcast instantly adopt that gait. Lovers taught the illusory traits of love blindly follow them and try to live like imaginary lovers.

From what we have discussed so far it becomes clear that love is not something unique or different from our day to-day desire, affection, liking, etc. I opine that the so called love starts when two persons come into contact with each other and exchange their views, thoughts needs and desires. These personal traits, needs and desires are not fixed ones. They are bound to change in course of time. So are the changeability of love, affection, attraction, etc. I am not against love while viewed as affection, desire, and a friendly disposition. Love, affection, desire, friendship, etc, are for one’s happiness and gratification and where there is no happiness and gratification it is imposture to pose oneself as a true lover. I have written all this to prevent those who, irresponsibly interfere in the personal happiness and gratification of others by admonishing utterings like “Yours is not love” “It is against love”, “ Yours is lust” “Your love is equivalent to prostitution” etc and make life a hell in the name of the deceptive word “LOVE”

This content in the blog is not done by the authors of this blog... a great leader named periyar.

Love yourself

Readers .... I really worried about some of my friends in the present and at times it happens to me also. When you lost some thing don't bug your self that you have missed it. It all happens because of our nature. If you say that your love broken because of some problem? or because of some fight? Its the biggest foolishness to think. If some one thinks that they want to leave you ....they take every opportunity to move away from you. So why you are bugging yourself. At the end of the day we tried each possibilities to get things work. But if the person is not ready to listen.. for that!! why we have to bug ourself.

I really hate people crying. Why a person cries .......... because he don't have confident in himself. They are trying to prove them self good to the outer space. instead of crying First trust your self. Love your self. I have read one quote “You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.”

You know some thing when i broken my pot initially i was suffering from lot of mental shocks with in a week when i approached the pot...It made it statement clear that it had broken ...... still after realizing what are all happened if i still keep my trust in that whats the respect which you are giving to your own taught. we should first respect our own dignity. Self respect is very important to every one. Enough crying ... you still got lot of chances to make this place a better place to live. We know everything about that person ...compare your dignity, values , Your amount of self respect with the person and you will come to know the true value of your trust.

N-Joy yourself .... There are lot of things unrevealed in our life... M realizing my self how to move ... People can still ask one beautiful question " Why you are not worrying about your love"..Other wise questions like this " Have you Loved that pot truly? If you loved truly you know the pain?" .... Oh my god still lot of questions are there. Give me a break " If its true love it should come in both the ways"... " What ever happens they will try not to come outside of their relationships"...any way leave these things apart. Its all how you make your mind and time. If you start revealing the secrets of the world everything will be fine.... So start revealing your life .. never cry "

children every thing is in your hand... The choice is yours.

Bad and Good time...

As usual the day started with some disappointment and i moved towards the office. Heavy traffic people are pushing them self hurry for their day to start in which most of them are not interested in doing what they are doing now... While standing i was amazed on seeing different types of reactions from every one. All are bugging them self with some worries... People aged 35 and above ll be worrying about how to solve this months budget problem or some finical issues or some relative problems. People above 25 must be thinking y my gurl did to me like this today... y my boy friend dint call today morning..how to achieve this month target and much more..People those who are in the age 25 and below.. might be planning for weekend clubbing activities....oh my god how many mental issues. All these are happening in just 90 seconds ... when the light turned green people are kick starting their day with their worries.

As soon as i reached office i started surfing. I have read one article in a website ... i cant say it as article its a doubt clearing session. I found some question which pictured (bad time) to me as " wats happening here.. Y ppl are running for the Popular four letter word..Few of them are worrying about the society"

I ll give you some questions which i have read ... check it out

1.I have strange problem,i am 27 year old in love with 33 year old divorce,all is well but his divorce status keeps my parents to think a lot,because they think if i marry a divorce people and relatives will think that the girl have some problem thats why she is marrying a divorce.even sometime i am scare about this.i don,t know what to do.sometime parents agree and some disagree.is it that bad for a unmarried girl to marry a divorce in this society.plz help me sir.i know my parents will agree ,but how can we cope up with society.

2.I m in love with gal since its 3 years now on i have broke with her but still i love her but she didn't even married and i heard that her marriage is fixed i don't want to loose her and need her back into my life what can i do?

3. I am writing here for the first time. i m married since 1 and half year.but i dint enjoy sex because my husband gets premature ejaculation.though we love each other a lot but only foreplay is not enough right?any suggestions.we have tried start and stop technique also but all in vain.

4.I wants some help from you. one day i went to my aunt place for vacation, that time uncle was on office tour and she has a daughter @ age 12 and i m 24. I was sleeping in dinning room, At late mid night aunt came out of her bed room and sleep besides me, she insist physical relation from me and i supported her. Next day i feel guilt about the act i did, now I am back at home mostly aunt call my mom and asking for me to stay with her. I don't want to continue this relation what's your opinion, can i have your suggestion please.

5.A girl expressed a love to me, and i too agreed, but suddenly after 3 months she says she loves other, but she chatted with me hot even she said abt another love. she said she joked with me, and again says she is in love with some one. what to do

Still questions are counting ....but this is enough

Oh my god ... I think you ppl ll be thinking the same....

K fine I ll leave these question as it is ...You yourself give answers to the questions and to the society.

After few phone calls. I felt bored and went to have ma lunch. Wow again wonderful time started. It was really wonderful. I never had a lunch like that in my recent ages. I was completely surrounded by Mist with ma gurl(Where are you) having hot coffee ... no no ...might be a ounce of Dark rum. Simultaneously listening to Mirchi. I was surrounded by beautiful flowers around me. M a fast eater but that day i had lunch for more than half an hour. I really enjoyed and became normal.I know that m sitting on the hottest part of the earth but still i made my mind to enjoy my time. I felt nice and I am daily trying the same. You can also try this ...It works.

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Successor

life with dreams hopin everyday wat u think is goin 2 happen
is all comedy of errors................... ur goin 2 win
.........thoughts and dreams like this r goin 2 make u feel
cry and not laugh so just believe me ............dont go with
me let me tell u this story so in the end u ll be 4 sure with
me (its not a dream or a fairy tale said in a diff way but its a
real incident which really affected me a lot and realize many
things and so give creed and respect to the one who has been
involved in this story since HE`S NO MORE ....HE`S DEAD)
College........sounds gr8 .........Eng.Coll .........hmmm
sounds more gr8 ............tat was the feel which i had in my
days of awakenin eng,. coll days................my family with
all sufferings joined me in eng. (it costed 1 lakh 4 my F***
mechatronics degree )believe me life is really a miracle and
can take u 2 high feels and heights and drop u just like that
...........1st yr. coll nice feel way 4m home new friends
seniors raggin heroism b`day bums parties late night ridings
girls hostel by ur side raggin juniors girlfriends stunts gang
fights problem solvin break the rules..................u name it
i had it and have gone all of them in my ug......... 1st yr arrears seniors fight etc...........days went really fast 2nd yr. came i became a senior 2 and
then juniors below me everyone in our ctrl life was damn
crazy...............things which r not be done r our routine
cycle................do watever u want when ever u want and
face watever comes,................we were really brave those
days........coll passed on..... came 2 final yr suddenly finished my
eng.....had still arrears..........but had a lot of faith i ll
surely clear it but no more juniors fun and other etc.`s in
life..........................one early mornin i got a call tellin one of my closest one ma
junior died met with an accident drunken drive..........

"tat sec when u know ur
closed one is no more and has gone
and nothin can be done and can never
think abt it ....it really
pains it kills when it happens it doesnt pain tat
much but it
marks a deep wound an everlasting one........it feels like my
life my pride is broken 4 someone who cheated u and left u in
between
.......so thats it forfeith the game b4 someone lasts ur placesince the pace is
too fast then i thought then i cried i felt
the impact i saw d crimson i
came 2 know it then when
someone who`s close 2 leaves u then they doesnt
leave u but
start livin more on u and thats their sin and ur
pride.............just think then u ll feel like runaway u have no answers
dumbed by mind the fact isthe sins which u do in life will one day overtake
u and ur
family ,(so if ur close one leaves u never f***in feel never
sob since its ur sin and ur closed one`s sin which has
reflected so
smile a lot)"

i started livin my life without knowin the answers and i know i
can shut the door EOD so dont runaway but just love ur mind
it ll take u too a highest peak of feel in life which is 4 u 2
feel am one of the lucky ones 2 feel it so u do start feelin it remember sacrifices never go hand in hand and know who ur(barter system)i tried to do watever u like 2 do the way u tried.....so now
its bad 4 them and good 4 u arise the knight within u
life really thought one thing 4 me is never think abt ur past
and say it has gone fast rather see ur present and say its
very slow ask ur self every sec howz life ...............give a
cheers and give a smile

walk a mile

be a nile..(flow to the d places u can)
omnipotent bless u and give u d divine within
HOPE UR WITH ME NOW LIVE D WAY U FEEL

-mitybabyboy

Not to Stumble while starting

So many times relationships start out wonderfully with excitement and joy. Then before long, many begin to wonder where the love has gone. This articles describes some of the simple laws of love, which, when practiced, keep love going strong.

So many times relationships start out wonderfully; the person is joyous and feels as if they’ve found, "the one". Then as time passes, they begin to wonder where has the love gone? Many feel lost when this happens. They do not know what went wrong, or what steps need to be taken to make things right again.

But stop a moment and think about it. You would never try to build a building without first getting an architect’s plan. Without a strong foundation, any passing storm would easily knock the building down. The same is true of relationships. Although we learn many things during years of schooling, most never have the opportunity to learn the basic laws of loving relationships, what is required to make them work.
So many ppl jumps into relationships wanting to fly to the heights without having any understanding at all of how to build a solid foundation that will allow their relationship to stand strong. However, just as an architect knows and respects the laws of gravity, we too must know and work with the basic points of love. These laws operate unfailingly. They are the cornerstone of all relationships and guidelines for the human heart. Once we learn and apply the basic laws of love, it is truly impossible to fail at love. No matter what happens.

To begin with, let us absorb this Point

1. It is impossible to fail at love.

No one is a failure in love. Our mistakes, losses, confusion and mishaps do not arise because of love. They arise simply out of our ignorance of who we are and what love truly is.

In order to recognize real love, we must move onwards to Point

2. There is a difference between real and counterfeit love.

Counterfeit love is based upon the idea that love is an emotion, a wonderful feeling, not a way of life. In counterfeit love, when we have strong feelings towards someone, we immediately assume that we are in love. But all feelings naturally change, that is their nature. Many feel that love is leaving when this happens. They do not realize that it is the nature of feelings to change, and that this is also the nature of counterfeit love.

Counterfeit love is confusion between excitement, dependence, attachment and love. Real love does not fluctuate. We do not reject the other person if they do not meet our needs. Real love grows through action. It is love is a verb, upon deeds of kindness, value and respect. It knows that the foundation of lasting relationships is built something deeper than feelings that come and go.

Love brings fulfillment, healing, kindness, warmth and inspiration. Let us separate truth from error here. If this is not what's going on in your relationship, it is not an expression of love. But it is easy to save your relationship. Let us learn how to build relationships that are based on a strong foundation. Once you learn and practice the laws of love you will not only save your relationship, but become all you were meant to be.

Relationships are like plants. They need to be nurtured with love, care and understanding. You need to work at it on a regular basis and learn the skills needed to make it grow. Those who take relationships for granted and do not take the time to do the maintenance will find a once beautiful relationship will wilt and die.

Good communication is the foundation stone of any healthy relationship but there must also be lashings of mutual respect and commitment to each other.

Trust each other

You must learn to share your thoughts and feelings with your partner,even if they are unpleasant. Very often the fear of offending your partner makes you keep quiet, and you choose to suffer in silence. Not only doing an injustice to you but also sowing the seeds of unhappiness and mistrust.

You must trust each other. Suspicion breeds hate, jealousy and sorrow. Often, these feelings get out of control, and destroy relationships. The best way to keep the flame of trust shining bright is to confide in your partner. It removes mistrust, and does not allow misunderstandings to grow. It pays to be honest with each other. Don't hesitate to brush unpleasant issues under the carpet. If you have done a wrong, let your partner know. You will both feel stronger to face the next challenge.

Balanced relationship

Being a part of the 'couple' should not affect the sense of self. Establishing boundaries where needed helps to maintain a balanced relationship and allows each to become fulfilled. Keep your own hobbies and pastimes but remember to share an interest in what your partner does as well. You are two separate entities with often-differing likes, dislikes, traits and interest. Respecting and allowing for these differences is essential for reducing conflict.

"Warts and All"

Love brings along many expectations that need to be met. Every partner expects something from the other. But the expectations must be realistic and achievable. If both partners understand that that neither of them is perfect and accept each other "Warts and All" It will help them enjoy an equitably and contented life together.

stages in every relationship.

The first is attraction.

When you are first attracted to a person, you wish to know more about them, there likes, dislikes, interests etc. Then you gather courage to make your first move like asking to come for a movie, dance or dinner. Both partners often feeling embarrassed and awkward but probably mostly feeling over come with wonderful feelings about your newfound love.

The second is the testing stage.

This is the stage when the relationship starts blooming. You are both learning more about each other. If you hide your emotions or are deceitful in any way at this stage, then you can be sure that you are building weak foundations. The relationship any well seem to flourish for a while but that weakness will undermine all the good work you do and it will fail. Honesty dealt with in a tender manner will be a strong bond that will help to hold you together.

The third is the conflict stage.

As the relationship progresses and you have been together some time there will be conflicts and disagreements. Those who are able to handle these conflicts with trust and equanimity will be able to keep the relationship going where others would simply flounder. So, learn to handle conflicts and learn form all the ups and downs.

A fine achievement

Because you have been together for a long time you may well feel your partner takes you for granted or that you are in a rut. The positive side of that coin is you are in a comfortable relationship were you have mutual respect for each other. It may not have the zest and excitement of a new relationship but you have learned to live in contentment with another. This really is a fine achievement and so worthy of praise. It has the reward of a long lasting loving relationship that can only be coveted by many. Allow your partner just to be human not some super-person who you expect must always get it right. If you allow them that courtesy they might then do the same for you!

If you think it’s not good to continue your relationship, discontinue your relationship soon. Discontinue doesn’t mean that you stop/broke your relationship. It prefers you avoid building deeper relationship with him/her. Just be a friend without deep relationship. Maybe you will feel hurt to discontinue, but a little hurt is better than you will get a broken heart tomorrow.

If you feel something wrong with your partnership, solve the problem as soon as possible. If you wait to solve until next time the problem will be bigger. And it will be a time bomb that can blow out at any time. You will get the serious broken heart. You and your couple will accuse each other. So, it’s easier for you to realize & solve the problem now than you will get hurt tomorrow.

Cont..

Do u have a dream...??

I once again start with my crazy work... Only genius interpret.

I start writing this after a bad dream i had last night.. I pray tht it should not come true..

I wanted to refresh my thoughts and started thinking of one of the beautiful dream which i had long before...something really beautiful..

It was the happiest day when i got up from bed, sun shined brightly through my window on my face which woke me up. Stepped down it was so cold when my feet touched the floor my servant started knocking the door.. When i came out of my room all my relations were there. All were very busy preparing u know wht it was the day of my engagement. My dad was busy with calling the cook for the lunch for the guest and the relations who are coming. Mom was busy with cleaning the fish tank so that she can make it look very bright when the in laws are there. She was taking a new carpet and spreading it in the hall changed the positions of the chair. i was watching all this from top as when i come out the room i can see the hall as it was a high roofing.. My mom starred at me and said to go ready fast.. i was blushing to the core.. I got ready and all were praising the Saree which i wearing i was flying..

Suddenly all became very silent and my brother said tht all r coming they have reached.. i cant explain how frightened i was.. But it was a mixture with happiness.

They called me to come down to go give the coffee u all know something i don't know to prepare a coffee neither i drink it. I went down slowly i have walked so slowly in ma life.. which during march past once in ma school days i lost the position of the flag barrier as i don't get the slow march... heeeee . i felt all i goin to change. i greeted them gave them the coffee all smiled i looked at the groom .. oh my it was a second. Waiting for it all these yrs.. Then my mother in law she asked me "Do u like KEERTHAN" i saw her face to reply..

A big knock.. some one knocking badly.. i got up from my bed it was my servant.. i realized it was a dream.. i once again thgt oh my god wht a beautiful dream it was.. I never lost the impact..

It was time for my college got ready took my bike , while i was riding some car was horning so loudly and last i gave way when it passed me there was a name the same name "KEERTHAN" written at the back of the car.. Oh my god.. i followed it so fast but missed it..

It was a dream which i cant forget in my life time..

Now i m sitting before the system typing all these ha ha ha ..

I m totally out of stress which i had this morning.. laughed for a while..

Refresh ur thoughts.. to be contd..,

Electrifying mind - keep going

Are you person who faced any failure in your life? Are you a person who missed your loved one? When you missed your loved one. Understand the problems why he or she left you. Try to re patch things, still nothing good happened we cant sit and cry for it. PPL those who left u .. one day definitely they will realize for it at least for a second.

Leave the issues apart. i know it sounds foolish but whats the use of sitting and crying. Start your life with full power again. you can say how ?. One thing understand what ever happened in your life its all for some reason. You will deserve a much better person. Nothing to worry ... PPL ll always look something better in life and also they will have a reason behind their selection. Even you can fight and go and ask their parents with the proof you have. But whats the use child.Just Chill let them enjoy their life.

Last Saturday strings and parikrama concerts happened in chennai. what an electrifying time..I was standing in front of the stage and watching a fat girl. Oh my god.. i was really amazed by seeing her enthusiasms. She dint mind anything. she was completely in to the concert. I have learned a lesson from her. Just keep your mind electrified.

Lot of thing are here to enjoy. You really don't know where you will go after your death, it may be heaven or hell. What ever it might be but don't make your present life hell. Lot of things are there to rejoice and enjoy. Initially it ll be tough. I know the pain completely. But do you think that there is a value for your emotions and pain?I ll leave this question to you.

Coming to the concert, Oh my god! Strings impressed me than parikrama. wow music has some power and energy. I felt fresh on that day after a big loss. But i wont say its loss.well i can say another step to shape me up. Even my loss showed me a new direction.

PPL can still ask...."y u don't have any heart feeling". yep how can i forget?I cant forget anything but thinking the same thing wont bring anything. You might be thinking about your love.. but the person who you loved most ll be busy with his or her own things....... At the most we can be a good friend we can guide a better life...But this is like walking in fire you have to be very careful ..., We can re patch until we don't know the result. If you know the result.. do you think again it will work. Some one will definitely there for you.


In life there are lot of things to enjoy. Have you learned anything from your losses. Fine thats enough just move on. You will find your kind of people. I got my set of friends who helped me a lot same way u will get. Keep trust in this world. What you think is what you get. Just keep your mind electrified.

My ratings for parikrama 3/5 & strings 4/5
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Do u think tht this world does not deserve u....?

I again start with my crazy work for crazy people... Only genius interpret..

Do u think tht u r not fit to live in this world?

Do u think tht no one cares for u?

Do u think tht u r alone?

Do u think tht u want to die?

Do u think how to die?

Do what i say..

Dont look at the past... Some one said "Past is history, future is mistery and present is gift that is why it is called as a present"

So always we need to think the present, there is no use in looking back and wondering that we have lost something precious "Once Lost is Lost". The world is moving so fast that no one waits for no one. Each second ticks each second we move back in this competitive world.

Make new friends, i had experienced in ma life i make new friends easily so this is how i get rid of my sadness. If u like movies watch it, books read it, music listen to it.. always do wht u like and mind do not be idle as "An idle mind is Devils Factory". U may think tht u r the only one who is suffering like this but when u see many other people who suffers actually ur suffering will not be a pinch of it.

U cant forget the past memories but keep those memories as beautiful as u can.

Live for the present adore each second of life.. This is wht i m doing. Try to luv the things around u. Y should u be wait for luv from the person who do not deserve u anymore. Luv the people around u : mom, dad, bros and sis ur pet and ur friends.. they care for u much than anyone in this world.

People always run after happiness and they say they cant find it: Happiness is a treasure hidden inside u.. U can only find it when and only u find the right path.

One of my friend says " I lost my happiness " no he/she do not loose their happiness, its ur asset which is never lost.

LET ME TELL U THE FIVE RULES OF HAPPINESS:

RULE 1. Free your heart from hatred
RULE 2. Free your mind from worries
RULE 3. Live simply
RULE 4. Give more
RULE 5. Expect less

Another person says the reason to loose it is fate , its insane u cant blame fate for anything. See the dictionay meaning for Fate "Definition: A fixed decree by which the order of things is prescribed; the immutable law of universe; inevitable necessity; the force by which all existence is determined and conditioned."

Do u believe in this i do not, i always feel to make life happy its in ur hand, and blaming any other people is of no use.

When Fate is defined like tht see the definition of Life "Definition: The state of being which begins with generation, birth, or germination, and ends with death; also, the time during which this state continues; that state of an animal or plant in which all or any of its organs are capable of performing all or any of their functions; used of all animal and vegetable organisms."

Life period is from birth to death, utilize it fully. People will only understand that they have wasted their life time only when the life period is gonna get over.

People mark my words "Life once lost is lost, so make ur moves carefully"

"HAPPINESS IS LIKE BUTTERFLY, THE MORE YOU CHASE IT, THE MORE IT WILL ELUDE U, IF U TURN UR ATTENTION TO OTHER THINGS, IT WILL COME AND SIT SOFTLY ON YOUR SHOULDER"

Relation ship(sinks)

Reading this blog - One question to you! have you ever loved some one in your life?. If yes is your answer .Nxt question ? Are you moving with the same person now? or if both of you are married? If yes is your answer then congrats ppl. Even you can share your success stories with us... we love to hear

In todays fast moving world importance to relationships are becoming worse. People are not ready to fight for their love instead breaking easily. People those are facing first time a break will be affected more but still things should move as it is designed by universal laws.

While writing this blog one of my friend came and sat with me..... after watching the screen he asked me few questions...For which i don't have a proper answer if you have... share it with us.
1. He loved me after seeing my character. right! ... Now y she left?
2. How can he imagine a new person instead of me? for this question i know the answer
3.Is possessiveness is good or bad? i ll say its good

Any way ... after all When i traveled to the Garden city , I stayed with ma friends. As usual we boozed on that day night. I met a guy working in Dell he said one story which happened in Dell....
He had shared his bed with one of his colleague who already married and their marriage was a love marriage. Wat's happening here.... outsiders call us as a cultured country. But do we deserve it any more

Even if you had a break in your love. Try to re patch the problems. Give your best to solve it. Still if ppl don't accept you. Try to maintain the dignity and respect to her or him. Try to be friend at least and if possible don't disturb her. Because she the person who you loved . But another Question is how many people deserve your dignity and respect.

A recent survey predicted the following reasons for breaking the relationships

Why relationships fail

Not all marriages fail for the same reason. Nor is there usually one reason for the breakdown of a particular marriage. Nevertheless, we hear some reasons more often than others.

They are:

Poor communication
Financial problems
A lack of commitment to the marriage
A dramatic change in priorities
Infidelity

There are other causes we see a lot, but not quite as often as those listed above .They are:

Failed expectations or unmet needs
Addictions and substance abuse
Physical, sexual or emotional abuse
Lack of conflict resolution skills

If we look at the statistics, we find that New Delhi leads with the highest number of divorces in the country, with more than 8,000-9,000 cases every year, followed by Mumbai and Bangalore with 4,000 and 5,000 cases per year. Even in Kerala, the most literate state in India accounts for an increase of 350 per cent in the last 10 years, while Punjab and Haryana have recorded 150 per cent increase. The judge of a matrimonial court commented that there used to be one to two cases in the 1960s, 100-200 in 1980s, about 1,000 in 1990s, but now it has increased to about 9,000 cases per annum.

Our solution is discuss, there should not be any communication gap... recent survey predicted 59% of divorce are happening because lack of proper communication. Got problem sit and talk.
Even surrounding's plays a major role in our life. So make sure your are surrounded by proper people.


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