So many times relationships start out wonderfully with excitement and joy. Then before long, many begin to wonder where the love has gone. This articles describes some of the simple laws of love, which, when practiced, keep love going strong.
So many times relationships start out wonderfully; the person is joyous and feels as if they’ve found, "the one". Then as time passes, they begin to wonder where has the love gone? Many feel lost when this happens. They do not know what went wrong, or what steps need to be taken to make things right again.
But stop a moment and think about it. You would never try to build a building without first getting an architect’s plan. Without a strong foundation, any passing storm would easily knock the building down. The same is true of relationships. Although we learn many things during years of schooling, most never have the opportunity to learn the basic laws of loving relationships, what is required to make them work.
So many ppl jumps into relationships wanting to fly to the heights without having any understanding at all of how to build a solid foundation that will allow their relationship to stand strong. However, just as an architect knows and respects the laws of gravity, we too must know and work with the basic points of love. These laws operate unfailingly. They are the cornerstone of all relationships and guidelines for the human heart. Once we learn and apply the basic laws of love, it is truly impossible to fail at love. No matter what happens.
To begin with, let us absorb this Point
1. It is impossible to fail at love.
No one is a failure in love. Our mistakes, losses, confusion and mishaps do not arise because of love. They arise simply out of our ignorance of who we are and what love truly is.
In order to recognize real love, we must move onwards to Point
2. There is a difference between real and counterfeit love.
Counterfeit love is based upon the idea that love is an emotion, a wonderful feeling, not a way of life. In counterfeit love, when we have strong feelings towards someone, we immediately assume that we are in love. But all feelings naturally change, that is their nature. Many feel that love is leaving when this happens. They do not realize that it is the nature of feelings to change, and that this is also the nature of counterfeit love.
Counterfeit love is confusion between excitement, dependence, attachment and love. Real love does not fluctuate. We do not reject the other person if they do not meet our needs. Real love grows through action. It is love is a verb, upon deeds of kindness, value and respect. It knows that the foundation of lasting relationships is built something deeper than feelings that come and go.
Love brings fulfillment, healing, kindness, warmth and inspiration. Let us separate truth from error here. If this is not what's going on in your relationship, it is not an expression of love. But it is easy to save your relationship. Let us learn how to build relationships that are based on a strong foundation. Once you learn and practice the laws of love you will not only save your relationship, but become all you were meant to be.
Relationships are like plants. They need to be nurtured with love, care and understanding. You need to work at it on a regular basis and learn the skills needed to make it grow. Those who take relationships for granted and do not take the time to do the maintenance will find a once beautiful relationship will wilt and die.
Good communication is the foundation stone of any healthy relationship but there must also be lashings of mutual respect and commitment to each other.
Trust each other
You must learn to share your thoughts and feelings with your partner,even if they are unpleasant. Very often the fear of offending your partner makes you keep quiet, and you choose to suffer in silence. Not only doing an injustice to you but also sowing the seeds of unhappiness and mistrust.
You must trust each other. Suspicion breeds hate, jealousy and sorrow. Often, these feelings get out of control, and destroy relationships. The best way to keep the flame of trust shining bright is to confide in your partner. It removes mistrust, and does not allow misunderstandings to grow. It pays to be honest with each other. Don't hesitate to brush unpleasant issues under the carpet. If you have done a wrong, let your partner know. You will both feel stronger to face the next challenge.
Balanced relationship
Being a part of the 'couple' should not affect the sense of self. Establishing boundaries where needed helps to maintain a balanced relationship and allows each to become fulfilled. Keep your own hobbies and pastimes but remember to share an interest in what your partner does as well. You are two separate entities with often-differing likes, dislikes, traits and interest. Respecting and allowing for these differences is essential for reducing conflict.
"Warts and All"
Love brings along many expectations that need to be met. Every partner expects something from the other. But the expectations must be realistic and achievable. If both partners understand that that neither of them is perfect and accept each other "Warts and All" It will help them enjoy an equitably and contented life together.
stages in every relationship.
The first is attraction.
When you are first attracted to a person, you wish to know more about them, there likes, dislikes, interests etc. Then you gather courage to make your first move like asking to come for a movie, dance or dinner. Both partners often feeling embarrassed and awkward but probably mostly feeling over come with wonderful feelings about your newfound love.
The second is the testing stage.
This is the stage when the relationship starts blooming. You are both learning more about each other. If you hide your emotions or are deceitful in any way at this stage, then you can be sure that you are building weak foundations. The relationship any well seem to flourish for a while but that weakness will undermine all the good work you do and it will fail. Honesty dealt with in a tender manner will be a strong bond that will help to hold you together.
The third is the conflict stage.
As the relationship progresses and you have been together some time there will be conflicts and disagreements. Those who are able to handle these conflicts with trust and equanimity will be able to keep the relationship going where others would simply flounder. So, learn to handle conflicts and learn form all the ups and downs.
A fine achievement
Because you have been together for a long time you may well feel your partner takes you for granted or that you are in a rut. The positive side of that coin is you are in a comfortable relationship were you have mutual respect for each other. It may not have the zest and excitement of a new relationship but you have learned to live in contentment with another. This really is a fine achievement and so worthy of praise. It has the reward of a long lasting loving relationship that can only be coveted by many. Allow your partner just to be human not some super-person who you expect must always get it right. If you allow them that courtesy they might then do the same for you!
If you think it’s not good to continue your relationship, discontinue your relationship soon. Discontinue doesn’t mean that you stop/broke your relationship. It prefers you avoid building deeper relationship with him/her. Just be a friend without deep relationship. Maybe you will feel hurt to discontinue, but a little hurt is better than you will get a broken heart tomorrow.
If you feel something wrong with your partnership, solve the problem as soon as possible. If you wait to solve until next time the problem will be bigger. And it will be a time bomb that can blow out at any time. You will get the serious broken heart. You and your couple will accuse each other. So, it’s easier for you to realize & solve the problem now than you will get hurt tomorrow.
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Trust each other
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